Dear Bruin Community:
Since Julio began his listening exercise in February, I have met with 29 men and women, and more than 5,000 non-binary baristas, substack writers, and blue-haired PhD students. I have received more than 1,500 suggestive photos on the listening exercise web page. Through it all, one of the topics that has come up consistently has been the turmoil on campus when Julio began to notice that I didn’t love him anymore due to my newfound sexual prowess, and the ways it has affected our Bruin community.
I have not slept in the same bed as Julio for a while, so I am grateful to him for courageously speaking about what he has experienced. I have heard about the pain he has felt — pain at thinking I was under physical or verbal attack, when I was really just screaming out of unbelievable out-of-this-world orgasmic pleasure, so no worries; pain at his weird sagging nipples being stigmatized when I compared him to my new younger lovers’ aroused pecs; and pain at feeling unseen or alone in a time of polarization (many people sticking their pole in me). In particular, the terribly pleasurable acts of cunnilingus performed on me on April 30, 2024 continue to weigh heavily on Julio. I deeply regret that he had to face such immense difficulties.
Since last spring, I have taken meaningful steps to ensure Julio and I can both maintain our commitment to free sexual expression and make our relationship an environment where all Bruins feel safe, welcome, supported, and able to have sex with me while Julio listens through the door at a safe distance. In my first few months as first lady, my team of primary partners and I have had open and honest conversations with Julio about the issues he faces. We welcomed Steve Allurie, an experienced sex and relationships therapist, to head our new Office of Sex and Sexuality from the guest room of our home, and improve the ways in which we facilitate the inward and outward movement of lovers coming in and out of my bedroom, and I am appreciative of Steve’s hard cock — I mean — hard work. We’ve also opened up a new channel for Julio to discuss his different perspectives and to process those differences through respectful couples therapy discussion, before he listens to Steve rail me.
There is still much work to do. Healing, reconciliation, and rebuilding trust take time. I hope that the people I’ve fucked — and the ones I will continue to fuck — show a shared commitment to creating a more inclusive, supportive, and sexual campus for everyone. I welcome your thoughts about how I can fuck even better.
I ask that you join me in reflecting on the importance of polyamory, open legs, and a commitment to work through differences in my, Steve, and Julio’s progressive throuple arrangement, by listening to and learning from one another in a framework of mutual respect.
Our wet, hot, passionate path forward depends on it.
We are One Throuple.
Felicia Marie Knaul
Wife of the Chancellor
